Is that Fall in the Air?

Hellooooo October 1st!!

Y’all, I cannot tell you how ready I am for fall weather to officially be here. It is my absolute favorite time of the year! The weather, pumpkin-smelling candles, change in the leaf colors, cute outfits, sitting outside, and enjoyable football games! Literally I love everything about fall….anyone with me?!

School has been super fast paced and keeping me busy but fall break is coming up, which I am looking forward to. I plan to do much of nothing and rest!  Also I got a new hair do a couple of days ago that I think I really like 😉

Recently I got a camera and have since been trying to “up” my photography skills. It has been a blast teaching myself. I am not the best but I am trying 🙂 Saturday I went and picked up my little cousin and we spent the evening walking/riding the golf-cart around taking pictures! Talk about refreshing!!! If you are overwhelmed or stressed or just need a break for a breath of fresh air, grab your favorite pair of tennis shoes and go for a walk!

I mentioned in a past post that I am trying to learn simplicity and to be thankful for the little things. I am thankful for this Saturday. Nature I think is something I personally take for granted and don’t appreciate enough. In my Bible class we learned that creation is inherently GOOD and this is something that really stuck out to me…our world is so full of hatred, evil, and sin that sometimes it’s hard to think there is anything good left. However, creation is still very good! Think about it–> sunsets, sunrises, the sound of waves hitting the shore, the scenery you see when climbing something…all of these will take your breath away. Why? I believe it’s because it’s a way that we can truly “see” the Lord. Through his artwork…humans can’t touch or mess up creation which is also why I think it’s so beautiful and enjoyable! Isn’t that so awesome? Thank you Lord for nature and creation! :)))

So with that being said, I wanted to share with you some of my favorite pictures from our adventure Saturday! FALL IS IN THE AIR!!!!





Connection Weekend 2017

I don’t know about you guys, but I honestly can’t believe summer is already over….like where did it even go? I am currently sitting outside a dorm, on a swing, enjoying the evening before classes officially start in the morning.

A few weekends ago, my church had a Connection Weekend. If you know what a Disciple Now Youth event is; this is exactly like it except it is just our youth group. Basically we loaded up the vans and spent the weekend at Twin Lakes growing closer together and growing in our walks with Christ before everyone got busy back in school. This was my second or so time to go as a college leader! There were worship services, olympic games, basketball, late nights, question/answer time, and tons of fellowship. So in this blog post I am going to share just some different things with you:

  1. The 7th-8th grade girls are the absolute SWEETEST girls to ever walk to planet! No joke! The college students arrived before everyone to set up and get things ready, so I just threw my suitcase and all into the cabin I was staying in…well, after a long night, I came in to grab something and those sweet babies had made up my bed for me!! My heart literally melted. I learned so much from them but one thing in particular is that I sase them truly care for other people! They each make sure no one is left out and that is something we could all do wherever we are. So if any of my girls read this, I LOVE YA’LL!!!
  2. I have gone to these weekends my whole life, but as I get older, and get to help out now, I see the importance of and how amazing these weekends really are. A few DNow(s) ago I actually gave my life to Christ as a college leader! Going to this connection weekend was so refreshing to just take a weekend and press pause on the busyness of the summer and get back on track with the Lord. Times like these I took for granted as a youth, but now that I’m an old college student, i really understand why we always planned these weekends.
  3. Kind of building on #2…Like I said, I realized just how important these weekends are. To be honest, I did not want to go at first. I was even dreading it a little bit as it got closer. But let me tell you, that was stinkin Satan trying to get in the way and not even let me think about how God could use a weekend like this to teach me so much…stupid devil..I did get excited though once I actually got there and it was such a BEST weekend!!! I read all the time in my devotional times about how it is a MUST to surround yourself with other believers…you can’t grow closer to God and learn different things by keeping to yourself all the time(which I am super duper guilty of). This weekend really put that into perspective. There was just something about being surrounded with teenagers who want to be on fire for God, by adults who dedicate their time to pour into the lives of the teenagers, and by other college students who want to better themselves as well. I can’t describe the feeling, but it’s amazing! Worshipping together, being goofy, and just listening to what the Lord was trying to say is something I needed desperately. And my little 7-8th grade babies made it all the more better! So if you seem to keep to yourself and think that you don’t need anyone else, you do. That is a lie that Satan is telling you and me but God wants more for us!
  4. One thing that like slapped me in the face one night was something Nolan (the youth minister) said: “Worrying about something you’ve already asked forgiveness for is basically like calling God a liar>” Ummmm holy moly I’ll give you a second to get up off the floor! How many of you needed to hear that?-because I surely did. But it is so true. If you are truly a child of God, sin is going to just eat you up, meaning that when you do something wrong, it makes you just sick to your stomach because the Holy Spirit is working on your heart. You may even do something over and over again until you give yourself a revelation and say okay, NO MORE…we all make mistakes. We all do things we wish we would have never done. We all sin. We’re human. But that is where Grace comes in. Jesus Christ came and exchanged his LIFE for death so that we could go from DEATH to life! He came to give us freedom from the sin we struggle with. So many times Satan attacks us and keeps bringing up things we’ve already straightened out with God. Do you know why he does this? Because this distracts us from doing the work of Christ. It causes us to think we are not worthy enough or don’t deserve to be making a difference, etc. He just doesn’t want us to think there is grace and forgiveness. But my sweet friend, there IS! And Jesus Christ will forgive and love and give grace to those who want it. Stop carrying around that guilt, and believe that Jesus has forgiven you.
  5. If you can, get involved with a youth group…young or old! It’s a blessing!!!
  6. Always strive to live your life for Christ. I have that desire so much right now and I pray you do to!

That was lengthy, but I wanted to share my heart with you! We had an awesome weekend with the best youth group ever! Super pumped already for Disciple Now weekend coming up shortly! These are some of my favorite shots I got from the weekend—>

much love, kate



Freedom & Simplicity

With a major holiday just passing, (the fourth of July), I figured now would be a great time to update my blog!

The Fourth is one of my absolute favorite holidays. I just love the red, white, & blue, the flag, getting together with friends/family, firework shows, and just what the holiday represents—Freedom 🙂

For me, I spent the day with my family at the beach. We always go each summer and this time it just happened to fall around the time of the fourth, which was fantastic! We layed and sat on the beach literally ALL stinkin’ day, paddle-boarded, swam, tanned (I just freckled haha), and really just enjoyed our time together! That night we cooked hamburgers/hotdogs and watched an INCREDIBLE firework show from our balcony. It could not have been more perfect!!!



I am currently trying to learn how to enjoy simplicity and be thankful for even the smallest things. My cousins and I decided to venture out and explore a new beach. It was secluded, the water was so calm it was almost like a lake, and it honestly had the most beautiful view ever! Boats were sailing by, the sun was beginning to set, and like I said, no one was really around. Looking back at some of the photos I took, I just realized how beautiful God made the earth and also I was just thankful that he allows us to enjoy it (simplicity in action here:)) I also enjoyed experiencing something new with my fav cousins!

***on a side note: I think I have the cutest models!!!








Defined by Christ Alone

Flowers are one of my new interests, so that is why the website looks a tad different; and joy is something I am working with the Lord to really find/have so I changed the name of my blog as well! **just thought I should share this:)

FullSizeRender.jpgI have recently taken an interest in reading books. Maybe it’s because I can appreciate the wisdom in them, or maybe it is because I’m such an old lady 😉 Either way, I find it really peaceful to just sit down and dig into a good, encouraging, God-centered book! As of yesterday, I just completed my 3rd book within a 1-2 month period–I have learned SO much and gained some new perspective on different things. The Bible, of course, will always be my favoritest (that’s not a word,but it’s my blog so today it is lol) book, but I think it is so neat how God uses people to write books and uses those books to reach millions of people all around the world.

My recent reads have been:

  • The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
  • UnInvited by Lysa TerKeurst
  • The Mingling of Souls by Matt Chandler

A sweet friend mailed me a book for my birthday called Girl Defined. I began reading it just today and in just the first chapter, my mind was opened–which is what led me to write this blog. I love reading books about women and learning about women in the Bible. If you remember, quite a long time ago I wrote a blog on modesty (which deals with girls), and then today I felt led to write another blog dealing with girls…..maybe this is something God is trying to show me; who knows 🙂

We as girls/women are important. We have a purpose and power. We are not here to merely just exist. We were created by God and for God. This all sounds so good, and it really makes you feel special…I bet you’re even saying YEAH AMEN or PREACH GIRL!! However, we do not always feel this way because society is CONSTANTLY throwing alternate identities to us as women/girls on a daily basis, causing us to be in a 24/7 battle.The book mentions how women live by “check-lists”, which I realized was very true (especially for me). If you think about it, we each have a check-list that we live by: I need to be this skinny, check; I need to major in this to be successful, check; To be a good mom I have to do this, check; To be pretty I need to wear this kind of makeup, check; To be worth anything I need to get this many likes on my post, check. And this list goes on and on.

Imagine walking outside and out of nowhere a brick just falls and hits you—> this is what happened to me as I read about this. Because all of a sudden I realized just how much I live by a mental check-list. (I measure my worth by wanting a perfect body, long hair, to please everyone, and to have a ton of likes on my Insta posts.)

I know this blog is getting long and I apologize, but let me summarize my point in all this. If we continue to live by check-lists, we will never ever ever ever ever EVER feel good enough, worth enough, or happy/content enough. Why? Our check-lists will continually be changing. Society will always have a new standard for women/girls. It will never stay the same. One of my favorite lines from the book so far is this: “The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of Christian, but the fact that I am a Christian does make me a different kind of woman.”(quote by Elisabeth Elliot). As Christian women/girls, it is vital that we do NOT live by our check-lists anymore. We must put our identity, worth in JESUS CHRIST. He made us, knows us better than anyone, has great plans for us, has a purpose for each of us, and the best thing of all; unlike society, Christ never changes. He constantly stays the same. Hebrews 13: 8, “Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.” When we fully trust in Him and only live to please Him, then he will begin to fill us with joy, happiness, and fulfillment in Him alone!

So…do you want to be a woman that has a purpose, power, and influence? Then start by putting your worth in Christ alone and watch the world around you change 🙂

*Girl Defined showed me so much already, so I give credit to the authors and God of course! Check out this book ladies


New Habits :)

Rainy days call for a blog! I cannot believe that yet another summer has come and gone just like that. I am seriously not ready to even begin to think about school or the work that comes along with it…but, oh well. I guess the sooner it starts the sooner it will be over 😉

Here recently, I have just wanted to get more serious in my walk with Christ. I’m saved, I try to remember to read my Bible every day, and all-in-all I try to be the best I can be. But for me these last couple of months, that hasn’t been enough. I am tired of “just getting by.” When did that ever become good enough for me? I want my words, my actions, my life to SCREAM Jesus Christ.

I follow Mary Kate Robertson (John Luke’s wife from Duck Dynasty) on Instagram. I think she is super pretty, so down to earth, and a good Christian girl. Well recently, I started reading her blogs. She’s a great writer and I feel like we think the same in a way, which is why I continue to read them:)  One that I read the other day really inspired me and I thought I would share it with you. You see, it is important for us to read the Bible. But if you’re like me, then you read it, feel like you’ve learned something, close your Bible, go about your day, and a few hours later you simply just cannot remember what you read or learned. MK wrote about this and talked about how important it was for us as Christians to memorize scripture, and hide it in our hearts.  She went on to say that we don’t always have our Bibles with us, but we DO always have our hands. Something she does to help her remember a certain verse from her study throughout the day is writing the first letter of each word on her hand! This helps her to remember to think on the Lord all day AND memorize scripture at the same time! How cool is that??

So I have recently started doing this, and y’all it works! When I see those letters on my hand all during my crazy busy day, I’m reminded to think on the Lord and meditate on scripture! If we don’t know what the Bible says, how can we share it with others? How can we apply it to our lives if we simply just read it, close it, and forget?

Something else I am doing is reading a book called “The Circle Maker”. I have seen so many people rave about how good it was and how it changed their prayer life. I am only on like page 77 but it is the BEST book in the whole entire world besides the Bible of course! If you haven’t read it, then you need to stop whatever you are doing and either go buy it, get it as an e-book, or get it shipped to your house A.S.A.P. I am hoping to write another blog on one particular thing that just amazed me, but I won’t spoil the book for ya;)

One other thing I am going to start doing is actually studying the Bible myself. I feel like I rely too much on going through a study and reading what other people have learned, that I do not actually take the time to study and learn for MYself! This is something I just personally want to start doing! Not saying Bible studies are bad, because I do love them. But I also want to get into the word all by itself!

I just wanted to share with you a few things that I have started doing to deepen my relationship with Christ because who knows…you may be wanting some tips to help you as well! Our world needs us, guys. We have to stop just getting by and truly live our lives completely sold out to Jesus Christ (myself included). He can do anything in this world! I’m so glad I serve HIM!!!

P.S. you better go get The Circle Maker or we can no longer be friends 😉


Time to Begin Again

I know that it has been awhile since I have written. To be honest, I don’t really know why I stopped, it just sort of happened…but I really love writing so I am not going to just throw that away. My heart is actually pretty heavy. There is so much junk going on in our world right now that I really do not understand. I have no clue how we got to this point. But in light of all of that, I wanted to write and just try to bring a little light back into the world. That is the least I can do. I don’t know how many people read this or if anyone even reads my blogs at all…but I am going to keep on writing and let the Lord take care of the rest!

This blog is actually not one where I am writing about anything in particular. Actually, I am going to share with you what has been happening in my life this summer! At the beginning of summer, I tried to spend as much time with my boyfriend as possible because shortly he was going to be leaving for the rest of the summer to go off to another country and play baseball…I know what you’re thinking, poor KB….haha. And honestly, at first that is how I felt. It was super hard for me to say goodbye, but this was something he wanted to do and I was excited for him to get to follow his dreams! For those of you wondering, I am surviving!! Thanks to FaceTime, I get to see his handsome face some and it always brightens my day:) He is actually going to be home in like FOUR days!!! I’m over here squealing like a little girl!! I am beyond excited you guys! Even though we have been apart for over 2 months now, I have still learned many things. And I mean many. I won’t share all of them because I’m sure you’re already tired of reading by now, but one thing I know is that long distance relationships CAN and DO work if you try. We are living proof of that. So if you are in a LDR or about to be, stop worrying about it (mostly the girls), because if you both love each other, it won’t matter the distance.

I also took some summer classes to try to get ahead in life. And might I add that I finished both classes with a big ole’ A!! Oh, and I’ve actually been working out a lot and running too…and yes it’s still me typing haha! It actually has become something I actually enjoy doing. Running has been a blast and taking care of my body just makes me feel mature in a way. I am actually using the C25K app to get me started so if you are looking for something to start you out at a slow pace, then that is your go-to app!

I’m not even ashamed to admit this, but I got hooked on this show and so I watch Netflix quite a good bit…and I mean quite a good bit 😉 who doesn’t love Netflix? I mean if you don’t, are you even really living???

Something else is that I realized that I wanted bigger faith. I just wanted bigger faith. And I actually started reading the book called “The Circle Maker” because I have heard so so soooooo many great reviews on it and they were all definitely correct. If you have never read it, BUY IT NOW!!! It is changing my life and it is such an awesome book that will open your eyes to things you’ve never even thought about thinking about–yea I went there! But I am still a human and I need the Lord everyday, so I am really just trying to be better, do better, and live for Christ. In all that I do!

Summer is coming to an end unfortunately, and life is going to move on. I promise to keep writing for those of you who actually follow my blog! I hope that your summer was everything you wanted it to be and more! Let the Lord prepare you for this coming school year and let him do GREAT things in/through you. Enjoy these last few days of summer!



Summer 2K16

I don’t really have a favorite season. I really enjoy each one we have. What I mean by that is that when it is time for winter, I am ready for some cold. When it is time for spring, I am ready to be able to be warm but not too hot (this weather also makes me want to run, which I need any push I can get haha). And when it is time for summer, I am usually ready.

Well right now, I am super ready for summer. Summer is a very exciting season. School is out, the sun is out, and anything can happen. There is tons of time to do tons of fun things. I enjoy all the relaxed freedom and activities that come with summer! I have seen many articles that people have written that tells what they would like to do for the summer. It is sort of like a Summer Bucket List. I personally have never made a “bucket list” but I thought it would be cool to make one now since I am sick and bored with nothing else to do 😉

So I am going to make myself a Summer 2K16 Bucket List and see how many I can mark off! Make yourself one! It will be fun and give you something to do!

Kate’s Summer 2K16 Bucket List:

  1. Read my Bible DAILY
  2. Memorize some scripture verses
  3. Visit Red Bluff (preferably with friends)
  4. Kayak
  5. Tan every free day I have
  6. Read The Circle Maker
  7. Read books that will make me more intelligent (suggestions welcomed!)
  8. Make new friends
  9. Take a trip to Canada….to visit my bf 🙂
  10. Exercise…on a daily basis…no excuses
  11. Do something that takes courage
  12. Take a mini road trip
  13. Grow my RF business
  14. Be a servent..and not expect to be served
  15. Truly grow as a Christian
  16. Go to a Lauren Daigle Concert
  17. Learn to play piano
  18. Take a beach trip…because it’s summer…you’ve gotta go at least once
  19. Do a random act of kindness every single day
  20. Pour into a girl’s life that is younger than me
  21. Go rolling with a big group of girls…how fun right?
  22. Visit an aquarium
  23. Visit a zoo
  24. Learn to cook like my mama
  25. Drive a Toyota 4-Runner….because it’s my DREAM car
  26. Have a fun photo shoot
  27. Journal
  28. Play frisbee
  29. Sponsor a child through Compassion
  30. Get a bike
  31. Go biking
  32. Eat healthier
  33. Go cruising in my sis’ car just for the fun of it
  34. Watch a sunrise
  35. Watch a sunset
  36. Stare and be amazed by the stars…I know I’m weird
  37. Try a crazy snow cone flavor
  38. Find a waterfall
  39. Have a cousin sleepover
  40. Have random sister dates cause I love my baby sis
  41. Eat watermelon
  42. Go bowling
  43. Go Indoor skydiving
  44. Get a polaroid camera…or any kind of camera
  45. Go parasailing (i’m terrified)
  46. Leave a positive not on a stranger’s windshield
  47. Watch “Finding Dory”
  48. Be a Best Friend
  49. Take a nice bubble bath
  50. All in all, just be more like <Christ>

So there you have it. 50 things I have decided to try to do during my summer! What are you going to do? Summer is so close I can almost taste it 🙂

Have an amazing summer! And always remember to put Christ first!

-KB 🙂

My ~new~ Testimony :)

Let me tell you about my life.

Growing up, I was always involved in church. I went to Sunday School, VBS, Wednesday night church, Kid’s Camp, Youth camp, Youth events, and now that I am in college, I am still involved in church activities when I am home on the weekends. So I have always known about Jesus and who he was. I’ve always read my Bible and prayed and worshipped. I even walked down an aisle and got baptized when I was like 8. If you know me, you know I have never, ever been rebellious…I have never done anything outrageous…I am not a problem child…I genuinely have tried to live my life for Christ……………

Of course, throughout my life, I have had spells of doubt and worry about my salvation. And when those times would come, I would pray about them and think they were fixed, and move on with my life. I would continue to read my Bible, go to church, and live my life the right way. And my life went on.

————> fast forward to about a few months ago, I was having another time when I was doubting my salvation again. Except this time, it didn’t go away. It kept reoccurring…and reoccurring…and reoccurring. I began praying about it, but nothing was really happening. Well, 2 weekends ago, we had our annual county DNow. I was originally not going to attend because I am a college student and didn’t feel like I needed to intrude on my youth group. But, there was some problems and some of our leaders could not be there and they needed help, so I ended up going. I got to stay with the 7th and 8th grade girls. (Shout out to them! They kept me laughing and were a ton of fun to be around!!!) But anyways, like I said, I was not going to go, but that just goes to show that God is going to get you where he wants you if you’re meant to be there!

I went into DNow weekend with a hungering and a thirst for more of God. I simply just wanted more. So I had a clear heart. And that is EXACTLY what I needed. On Saturday, there are 2 worship services held: one in the morning and one at night. During the morning service invitation, I just felt weird. Like, I knew something was wrong. I knew it had to do with God too. So I am standing there, singing and worshiping, and I just start feeling SICK. And I mean sick. Like about to puke. (gross I know…but just hold on). So I had no doubt God was dealing with me. But, I did not do anything about it. I just continued to stand there and let God work on me. With me struggling with all that, the service eventually came to a close and I was still feeling sick.

After the service, my youth group went over to our family life center to eat lunch and we had a few mission projects we were going to complete for the afternoon. All throughout the day, while everything was going on, I still felt that feeling. I KNEW something was wrong and it bothered me literally all day long.

The night service finally came and it was a great one, let me just tell you! The SAME thing that happened to me during the morning service happened to me again. Actually, it never left me. But it was back, and super strong. Once again though, I did nothing about it and the service came to a close. Then we were back at our host homes. The feeling was STILL there ya’ll. And I finally just had to do something about it. So I hopped in my car and went to talk with my youth minister and his wife. They prayed over me and left the room and I got down on my knees and I asked to the Lord to save me.

For so long I had felt empty, and I knew something was missing. But I thought I had Jesus so I didn’t pick up on that that was the thing I was missing. But I finally saw that Jesus was what I was missing from my life. I gave my life to Christ on February 6, 2016 at like midnight, and as soon as I did I felt that peace that passeth all understanding. It was so real and so amazing and such a GOD thing! And now, I am a child of God and heaven is my home! AHHHHHHH I could just shout!

I told ya’ll all that because I want you to know that God is still in the saving business. I’m so thankful that he never gave up on me. My life is forever changed. And I’ve never been happier! I also want you to know that if you feel like something is missing from your life, that you need to examine your life and heart and make SURE you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Because, without him you will never feel full or happy. He still saves. His love for you and me is UNBELIEVABLE. And he wants you to live with him for forever!

God is so amazing and I will forever serve him!

Blessings guys,


Such a Time as This

Lately I have been feeling led to begin blogging again and I have had thoughts of many topics that I want to write about, so it has been hard to choose. I decided to start with this one. Do you have a favorite verse in the Bible? Growing up people would always seem to ask me that. And to be honest, I would just say one verse that I knew by memory because it caught me off guard. I find many verses as I am reading the Bible that I really like. But just recently, I have found one verse that I have just fallen in love with!!!

About a year ago, my mom, sister, and I did a study on Esther. We went through the whole book and just made a girls study out of it! It was actually really fun and interesting. Because of that, Esther is my favorite woman in the Bible 🙂 so when we were doing this study, this particular verse never stood out to me…..but just recently it is by far my FAVORITE verse in the whole entire Bible! I’m guessing you want to know what it is right? Okay okay I’ll share it with you——> Esther 4:14 “and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”

HOLY MOLY right?? If that doesn’t light your fire then your wood is wet!


You don’t matter. You’ve messed up one time too many. You will never be able to make a difference. The world is better without you. You can’t be used. ——All of those are LIES LIES LIES from the Devil. Every single one of them. And more times than not we let him get in our heads and keep us from seeing what God has in store for us. Don’t let him have any part of you anymore! Tell him to get away in the NAME OF JESUS. Because there is power in that sweet, sweet name.

Let me tell you something. YOU matter. YOU have purpose. YOU can be used by God. YOU are loved. YOUR life has meaning. YOU CAN make a difference.

YOU ARE COME UNTO THE KINGDOM FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS!!!!!! There is a reason you are alive today. God has you right where he wants you. The Bible says that you are created for such a time as this. Our world is sick with sin and evil. We as Christians are here for such a time like this. A time for us to shine our lights like we never have before. To get serious about our relationship with Christ. To make it a DAILY habit to dig into the Word of the Lord. To come together and use our individual gifts to build the kingdom of God. This is our time, guys; and we have got to realize that! No more will the Devil get in our heads. No more. God said we were created and here for such a time as this!

If you have not read Esther, I encourage you to read it! It is only 10 chapters! It’s such a powerful book! I also encourage you to find a verse in the Bible that can really be your FAVORITE verse. And one that can apply to your life everyday!

🙂 KB

Life can be a FairyTale, if you let God be the author

So HI!! And I just want to start and apologize for not continuing the study on Proverbs, life just got super busy and I haven’t taken the time to sit down and write anymore. Forgive me. But I do have something special to write about today!

First of all, OMG have you been outside today?? It feels like heaven!! I absolutely LOVEEEE fall and this makes me so excited for cooler weather! I have been on my front porch for hours just enjoying everything! There is just something about sitting on the front porch and being in awe of God and his beautiful creation! So anyways, I was out here earlier today doing my Bible study and journaling, when I got an idea for this blog.

A little bit about me….in my junior high and high school years, it seemed to be that you had to have a boyfriend or something was wrong with you. And of course as a junior high girl, I believed it. So during those few years, I texted a few guys. And when i say texted, I mean for like 2 or 3 days. But, none of them ever “worked out” so to speak. Eventually, I just decided to give up. You know, who cares if I don’t have a boyfriend? I mean, I was in junior high. It wasn’t actually a “boyfriend” anyways. So like I said, I just gave up. I was not going to worry about it anymore. After this, I should have just began to pray, but I did not pray as I should have. Yet, God still remained faithful to me. Because a few years later, along came Michael (my current boyfriend)!!!!

Michael is everything I want in a guy:

-loving -caring -always willing to help anyone -loves others more than himself -wants to strive to live for Christ -he’s a Christian – he’s handsome -he always has a smile on his face -he is hilarious -he sees the good in everyone -he never complains -he’s super sweet -he’s an awesome baseball player…yet he won’t admit it -he’s very respectful -he comes from a great family -he loves my family as well -he encourages me and believes in me when I don’t believe in myself -he’s just the best boyfriend ever

So what’s my point? As I look back on my younger years, I realize that God was saving me and protecting me. He knew that Michael would come into my path and sweep me off my feet 🙂 He knew that Michael had a heart of gold, and that he strives to live a life pleasing to God. Looking back, I am so thankful that God was with me, leading me the right way, protecting me, and saving me for someone like Michael. I cannot be more thankful. So because of this, I want all girls to know. I want to use my experience and share with you girlies what I wish I would have done.

This is what I want all girls to know:

  1. First of all, I want you to know that you do NOT have to have a boyfriend to complete you. No matter what society says, if you do not have a boyfriend, I promise you, you will be just fine. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. You are worth everything to God. Your worth does NOT ever come from a guy. Ever.
  2. I recommend NOT “dating” in junior high. Some people will call me crazy, but looking back, and looking at young girls now, I strongly recommend this. You are in junior high. Enjoy being a kid! Another reason I recommend this is because as a junior high girl, I had NO idea what I wanted in a guy. I was not mature enough to really even know what a “good guy” had. As a jr. high girl, you are probably just basing your opinion on looks and popularity. And when looks and popularity are all you are worried about in a guy, you’re going to have many disappointments in life. Junior High girls should not be worried about dating. Don’t rush it. I tried rushing it, and nothing ever happened. It was not until I had just given up and stopped worrying about having boyfriend that the most perfect guy ever came in my life. So just wait, and God will bless you. You do not need a boyfriend in Junior High anyways, you can’t even drive yet! Don’t rush things! Live for Christ.
  3. I want you to go make a list. I want you to think really, really hard about what you truly want in a guy. I want you to write on a piece of paper all the qualities you want a guy to have if you’re going to date him. The things I said about Michael earlier are all characteristics I wanted in my guy. Now I want you to think, really think, and write yours down. And I want you to fold it, and stick it somewhere you’ll always have. Perhaps even in your Bible!
  4. I want you to know that you are a jewel in God’s eye. You are his daughter. He cares more for you than you can even grasp. Do NOT just settle for any guy. (Once you get old enough to date). I don’t care if the guy is the cutest in the school, if he’s the star football, basketball, baseball, etc. player, I don’t care if he has the nicest truck in the world, I don’t care if he’s the guy everyone wants to date. I DO NOT CARE. If he does not match the characteristics you wrote down, and if you wrote them from your heart, if he does not match all of them, do not date him. You wrote down those characteristics for a REASON. Stick to them and DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS! Before you start thinking you want to date a certain guy, get that list out and compare his characteristics to the ones you wrote down on your list. Just. Do. It.
  5. The most important thing when it comes to dating is please make sure your beliefs and his beliefs are the same. Make sure he is a Christian. Make sure he is living his life for Christ the best he can. Make sure he’s involved in church. Make sure God comes first in EVERYTHING he does. This is the MOST important aspect to dating. In fact, in 2 Corinthians 6:14 God says this: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” What this means is that it is not good for a Christian and a non-Christian to date. Some say well, if he dates me, he will become a Christian. NOOO!!!! It does not work like that. Just don’t even try it!
  6. One Sunday night during church, my preacher was talking about dating and relationships. And he told us “young people” as he calls us, that we do not need to date anyone we would not marry. And I had never thought about this, but he was right. And this is another reason that I don’t think you should date in Junior High. And even early High School years. And I think Bro. Buddy was right. I think you need to date someone you could see yourself marrying. Because look at this. If you date someone just to date them, or whatever your reason is, and you break up, Then you move on to someone else, And the pattern continues. We don’t see it this way, but that is the same thing as divorce. Dating in this society has just taken on a whole new meaning than what it should be. Society tells us that you just need a boyfriend to fulfill you or just for the fun of. This is not how it is supposed to be. You need to date someone you would marry. And that is why you don’t need to date when you’re young. I didn’t get blessed with Michael until my summer of 10th grade year. Was I mature? No I’ll never be completely mature, but I was way more mature than I was in 8th grade. I knew what I wanted in a guy. I knew that God was a big part of someone I was going to date. You are simply just not mature when you’re young when it comes to dating and relationships. You just aren’t. And I wasn’t either. You need time to grow up in life and in your spiritual walk to truly start thinking of what you want in a dating relationship and one day a marriage. If you would not marry the person you are dating, why are you even dating them? I’m so thankful God gave me Michael! And yes, I do plan on marrying him one day Lord willing!
  7. When you date, date someone who makes you feel happy. Who makes you smile. Who you can be yourself with. Who you can have clean fun with! And who most definitely LOVES Jesus and you, and you will have the best relationship ever!

I am not saying that mine and Michael’s relationship is perfect. Because it’s not. But, I can tell you that we both love the Lord, and even though we mess up daily, we both still have our number one goal as being the best we can be and living for Christ. I try my best to encourage him and he does the same for me. I’m beyond blessed that God gave me Michael, and I can tell you, waiting and not settling is TOTALLY worth it! And I also want to tell you that God is really always with you and looking out for you. He protected me from those few wrong guys and gave me just the right one! And I am SOOO thankful. Michael is my first real boyfriend and I couldn’t think of anyone better. And that’s because I truly believe it was ALL God! Cool story, but when Michael and I first started dating, he told me that he had prayed that if God wanted him to have a girlfriend, that he would send him a good Christian girl who loves God. And 2 weeks later (yes I admit it) I got his number and texted him. We stopped texting for awhile but started talking again, and now we’ve been dating for a little over 2 years. And he told me that he believes God answered that prayer. How cool is that? God needs to be a big part of your dating life! And I hope that you will take what I said to heart. I didn’t write this to boss you, I simply wrote this, because if I was in Junior High, I would want someone to tell me these things. This is what I personally have learned over the years, and I wanted to simply just share them with you!

Enjoy your life! Live for Christ! Shine your light! And know that I am always here if you’d like to talk!! 🙂

And Michael, if you’re reading this, thank you for being who you are and for loving Christ, and for loving me! I’m so thankful for you and I love you! :)…..sorry, I had to put this in here!!!

Much love girls,