Just Because It’s What’s Done, Doesn’t Mean It’s What Should Be Done
Okay. I know what you’re thinking: Really? Another blog about modesty? And to be honest, about a year or two ago, I would be thinking the same thing. If you have read this far, thank you so much, but don’t stop now! I hope to reach someone out there. I am writing this because I feel led to do something about what society is throwing at us every single day (as girls). All of my life, I have heard that girls need to be modest this and modest that. So what does that really mean? Do we even know that the word MODEST exists? Through this blog, with the Lord’s help, I hope to bring Modesty back and I hope Modesty will attack!!!
So honestly think to yourself; do I know what modesty means? I believe that many people do not even know the meaning of this word anymore, which breaks my heart. What is modesty? Well, if you type that word into Google, it says that modesty is “behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency.” In my opinion, modesty = respect. Respect for yourself.
Modesty does deal a lot with how we dress, but it also deals with the aspect of our behavior. We can dress in a modest manner, but if we walk around thinking we are “hot dookie” then our witness is ruined. Our actions and how we present ourselves speak volumes. What volume are you speaking?
As a little girl, and even a teen, I was one of the ones who wanted to fit in; the one who wanted to be able to do everything her friends were doing. My parents did not let my sister and I wear bikinis. And of course, with summer comes bikinis, and all of my friends wore them. So being the brat that I was, I fought with my parents constantly. I argued, fussed, complained, to the point where they decided to let me learn for myself. For 2 summers, I wore a bikini. Can I tell you how wrong I was?? All those years I thought these were like magical bathing suits and just the greatest thing, because all of my friends were wearing them. I have never been more UNCOMFORTABLE in my life. My cover-up hardly ever left my body. Looking back now, I realize that I was beyond stupid to even ever give in to the “bikini.” Why did I do this?
Society = Satan
Have you ever felt pressure to do something? Maybe it was to fit in, or to look cool, or just the fact that you wanted to be like your friends. This is why I got a bikini. I wanted to be a follower instead of a leader. Society is constantly throwing new fashions in our faces, and advertising that if we do not conform to this new style, then basically we will not fit in. I was very stupid. I thank God for opening my eyes as quickly as he did. In Romans 12:2, God says this: “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Society is constantly pushing us, especially as girls, to conform to the world. This is nothing more than Satan. You see, God clearly states in the Bible that we are to not conform, so Satan is going to do everything he can to make us believe differently. I let Satan get ahold of me. I do not want this to happen to you. Summer is one month that I look forward to!! No school, lots of free time, family vacations, time with friends, the beach, the pool, snow cones, and just TONS of fun! I enjoy summer so much! Something that bothers me about summer, however, is that it seems like each summer the new style is less clothing than last summer. Which once again, is Satan himself. So, after feeling super uncomfortable in that bikini, I realized just how stupid I was. As I began to grow more in my faith, I was able to see that clearly and with a good attitude. God also brought some amazing people into my life to open up my eyes and give me a new perspective as well. God just really showed me that by wearing that bikini, I was not being the example I was supposed to be. And that is what my parents were trying to say all along! Mom and Dad, thank you for that! I now understand your NO answer. Christ says in many different verses that we as women need to be modest and cover up. Our bodies are not for anyone and everyone to look at. They are solely made for Christ and our future husband. What are we thinking by going around with this worldly stuff on? That is the question I asked myself. Last summer, I decided that I was going to quit wearing bikinis. I was probably not considered the “trendiest” person that summer, but I can tell you, I felt much more comfortable and much more valuable.
So, a few weeks ago, I posted a video to my Facebook page. I saw this video about 2 years ago, but didn’t really think anything about it. So, I saw someone else post it, I watched it again, and I decided to share it with my friends on Facebook. The video is truly amazing!! The girl who did this presented to a group of people basically the evolution of a bikini. When a girl or a woman put on a bikini, they feel pretty, skinny, and like they are worth looking at (which literally breaks my heart.) In this video, the girl talked about a study that had been done on what guys think when they see a girl/woman in a bikini. Do you think he sees a beautiful human being? No, he does not. That is not how the mind of a male works (just how God made them.) Instead of seeing how beautiful you really are, all he sees is a “tool”. And that is all he sees. Sometimes, looking at a girl in a bikini, a man cannot even register them as a young lady. Did you know that we as girls/women are not supposed to be a stumbling block to our brothers in Christ? The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 8:9 “But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours becomes a stumblingblock to them that are weak.” What this verse means is that men have very weak minds. And it does not take much to distract them. Now, we as females can definitely not control how guys look at us. But we can, however, choose how we present ourselves. For instance, how we dress. Now I am not saying that a one-piece will not cause a man or guy to look, but it will be less enticing than a bikini. As a young Christian female, it is my responsibility that I do not become a stumblingblock to anyone. I am reading a devotion book on modesty and this last chapter gave a ton of scripture about not becoming a stumblingblock. After reading Mark 9:42, I realized that God takes modesty seriously. This is what that verse says: “And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.” HOLY MOLYYYYYY!!!!!! Tonight is the first night I actually really understand what this verse is saying! God takes sin seriously. He cannot stand it. He also takes modesty seriously! If we as girls walk around showing off and making guys look at us, that is causing them to sin, and according to this verse, it would be better for us to basically drown. WOW! And because things such as a bikini can cause a guy to lust, and lusting is a sin, I don’t need to be wearing one. Why would I want to CAUSE anyone to sin? I feel a huge responsibility to take modesty seriously. Think about this. Any summer church camp/trip, girls are not allowed to wear a bikini. We have to wear a dark-colored t-shirt so that what’s under can’t be seen. Does this not show a sign? If you can’t wear it to church, or at a church camp, why should you wear it at all? That is how I started looking at the situation of a bathing suit choice for the summer. And I am here to say that I will not wear a bikini ever again.
To back everything I have said up, here are just a FEW scriptures that deal with Modesty!! Enjoy, look them up, memorize them!!!
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?”
1 Timothy 2:9 “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;”
Proverbs 31:30 “Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”
1 John 2:16 “For all that [is] in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.”
1 Corinthians 10:31 “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do it all to the glory of God.”
I did not mean to step on anyone’s toes, I just felt led to share my thoughts on this. I want girls and even women to know that you do not have to get approval or compliments of a guy just by the way you dress yourself. You are so much more than that! You definitely do not have to dress in the way of the world to get attention. Do not feel like you have to do that to yourself! You are beautiful and wonderfully made in the image of God. Psalm 139:14 says this: “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made:” If you are a Christian, it is our responsibility to present ourselves in the likeness of Christ. How we dress, the bathing suit we choose to wear, the music we listen to, the shows/movies we watch, the friends we hang out with, should ALL reflect Christ in our lives. I can’t say a bikini is modest, because in my eyes, and verses in the Bible, it isn’t. It is basically a bra and underwear. Would you really go out in your bra and underwear? That’s all it is, just with different types of designs. Why let others see that when your body was made solely for Christ and your future husband? And I understand that many of us (myself included) want to fit in and get the approval of our friends and others, and we just want to be “in style” and up-to-date with the latest fashions. But life is SO MUCH MORE than that. My heart truly breaks at the girls and women who think the only way to get attention or to feel love is by dressing half naked. Because it isn’t. Christ will reward his daughters for dressing in a way that pleases him. We can still be so super cute and in style without showing off everything God gave us. WE CAN GIRLS!!!!! I cannot tell you how uncomfortable and weird I felt wearing a bikini around my father. I know I was ALWAYS trying to cover up as much as I could. I know he did not like it one bit and I know that he wants me to present myself in a Christ-like manner in how I dress, because he is a man and he knows how guys think. If you aren’t sure about something you have on, ask your dad or brother what they think, because they know and they will be honest with you! And listen to what they say! I thank God I have Christian parents. And I am so thankful that they let me learn this for myself, because it has made me the person I am today! I am most thankful for God, and his word, and opening my eyes to see the bigger picture! I am also thankful for a Jesus-loving boyfriend who helped me as well! God has plans for everything and I have learned so much!
A few blogs ago, I wrote about Cinderella. When talking about modesty, Cinderella always comes to my mind. I’m talking about the newest Cinderella!! I want myself, and other girls to strive to be like Cinderella. She was so kind and giving no matter what. Not only that, she was MODEST! She did not dress in a way that made everyone stop and look at her. In fact, she wore what was known as “rags”. But, because of this, she was rewarded, and got the Prince. He did not notice her by what she had on, he noticed her by her inner beauty! Girls, let your inner beauty shine! I know that this blog is long, and I probably rambled, but the point I’m trying to make is that modesty is really important. It has been taken away from society, and I can’t help but think that Christ is upset with this. That is why I believe this has been on my mind for this long. Something needs to be done! How have we as Christian girls let it get to the point where girls think they have to be half-naked to get attention? THAT’S SO SADDDD TO ME!!!!! I want better! I want girls to know they are BEAUTIFUL just the way they are. I want girls to know that they can dress in a way that pleases God, and still fit in!
So I am proposing a challenge to every girl out there. My good friend and I have been talking about starting a #MODESTYMOVEMENT. So here’s my challenge. For this summer, dress in a way that is pleasing to Christ, and won’t allow you to be a stumblingblock to your brothers in Christ. Maybe that means not wearing a bikini this summer. If a few girls would put on a cute one-piece, they would be back in style in NO TIME and bikinis would be in the Decline stage of the market. Do you realize that we, (as shoppers) determine the style? If we would stop buying bikinis, crop tops, high-wasted booty shorts, and so on, they would be OUT of stores! We have the power! Let’s use our power for good….for Christ! So that is my challenge for all girls out there! Let’s create a #MODESTYMOVEMENT!! Take a look at what you wear, just like I did, and dress in a Christ-like manner! If someone asks you why you don’t wear this or that, HEY, that’s a GREAT time to be a witness and let your inner beauty shine! I hope you all have a FABULOUS summer and enjoy some time off!!!
Have Courage and Be Kind – Cinderella
You are beautiful, God’s princess, and he LOVES you!!!!!!